Games for long distance couples

The hard part of long distance is not the big conversations. It is that there is nothing to do together, so every call becomes a status update. A game gives you something to share instead of something to report.

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Same questions, both ends

Start a round, tap Play together, and send the link. Whoever opens it gets the identical deck in the identical order — same questions, same sequence, on their own phone.

To be exact about what that does and does not do: it does not sync your progress. You each move through your own deck at your own pace, which is what you want on a call anyway. Nobody is waiting for the other person to tap Next.

There is no account and nothing to install at either end. The link is short enough not to wrap in a message.

Questions written for distance

Most couples questions quietly assume you are in the same room. Anything asking you to look at each other, or to do something together right now, is useless on a video call.

The long distance set never assumes physical presence. It asks what time of day you are missed most, what ordinary part of a day the other person wishes they could just watch, what the first ten minutes of seeing each other again would look like. The prompts that involve doing something are things you can do down a camera — describe your room so it can be pictured, play the song that has been reminding you of them.

Making it a habit

A short round on a regular call works better than a long one occasionally. Six cards is enough to change the texture of a conversation without turning the call into an event that has to be scheduled.

It also gives you a reason to call when there is no news, which is the week that long distance actually gets hard.

16 truth questions

1.Describe the first ten minutes of seeing me again, in order.
2.What time of day do you miss me most, and what are you usually doing?
3.What's something ordinary about your day you wish I could just watch?
4.Which of our calls has stayed with you longest, and what was it about?
5.What do you tell people about me when I'm not there to hear it?
6.What's the hardest part of this that you've never actually said to me?
7.What's a small habit of mine you notice more now that we're apart?
8.Which everyday thing would you most want to do together, not a holiday?
9.What keeps you steady on the weeks when the distance is heaviest?
10.What's something about your city you'd show me first, and why that?
11.What’s the first thing you’d want to do together that costs nothing at all?
12.Which part of my day do you know best without ever having seen it?
13.What have you actually got better at because we’re apart?
14.What have you stopped telling me because it felt too small to mention?
15.When did you last feel closest to me, and where were you standing?
16.What would you want me to notice first about where you live?

12 dares

17.Look around and describe the room you're in so I can picture it exactly.
18.Describe your whole day to me as if I had been there for all of it.
19.Photograph the least interesting thing near you and explain why it's there.
20.Name a date on the calendar we're both free and say it out loud.
21.Play the song that's been reminding you of me and say nothing until it ends.
22.Describe what you'd cook me if I turned up at your door unannounced.
23.Send me a photograph of the view from your window right now, whatever it looks like.
24.Say the thing you’ve been saving to tell me in person, and say it now instead.
25.Set a timer for two minutes and just look at each other without speaking.
26.Describe my face from memory, in detail, without looking at a single photo.
27.Write down the date you think we’ll next be in the same room, then show me.
28.Point the camera at whatever is happening around you for thirty seconds.

Play with the full set

These are a sample. The game has the rest — no signup needed.

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Common questions

Do we both need the app open at the same time?

You do not need an app at all — it is a website. Open the shared link on a call and you will both see the same questions in the same order. Progress is not synced, so you each tap through at your own pace.

Will the link give us exactly the same questions?

Yes. The link carries the settings and a seed, and the deck is rebuilt from those, so the order is identical on both devices. Nothing is stored on a server for it to work.

Does it work across time zones and bad connections?

Yes. Once the page has loaded it keeps working with no connection at all, so a dropped call does not lose your round.