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Icebreaker questions that actually work

A good icebreaker is not a fun fact. It is a question so easy to answer that nobody has to decide how much to reveal, which is the thing people are actually weighing up in a room of strangers.

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Why most icebreakers fail

Two rounds of "share something interesting about yourself" and everyone has learned that one person has been skydiving. The format asks people to perform rather than respond, and performing in front of strangers is exactly what nobody wants to do.

The statements here go the other way. They are small, ordinary and slightly embarrassing in a way everyone shares — introducing two people and blanking on both their names, rehearsing a phone call, taking a longer route to avoid saying hello to someone.

You are not revealing anything by admitting to those. That is the point: the first thing a group needs is not honesty, it is the discovery that they have the same small habits.

Using them with a group

Read a statement. Everyone who has done it says so. Whoever reacts most strongly explains, and you are talking.

This works for new teams, first meetings, the first twenty minutes of a party where nobody has quite settled, and any group where somebody knows everybody but nobody knows each other.

Keep the intensity at the lowest setting and stick to icebreakers as the only category. Nothing in that set touches relationships, family or feelings, so there is no card that can go wrong in front of people you have just met.

When to move on

Icebreakers have a job and it is finished quickly. Once the room is talking over the game rather than through it, stop — that is success, not a failure of the material.

From there, funny is usually the right next category. Deep is not, at least not on the first evening.

20 statements to try

  1. 1.Never have I ever been on TV, even just in the background
  2. 2.Never have I ever been stuck in a lift
  3. 3.Never have I ever missed a flight
  4. 4.Never have I ever slept in an airport
  5. 5.Never have I ever had a nickname I hated that stuck anyway
  6. 6.Never have I ever given directions to somewhere I had never actually been
  7. 7.Never have I ever introduced two people and blanked on both of their names
  8. 8.Never have I ever queued for something without knowing what the queue was for
  9. 9.Never have I ever ridden in an ambulance
  10. 10.Never have I ever lived in another country
  11. 11.Never have I ever been in a newspaper
  12. 12.Never have I ever performed on a stage in front of strangers
  13. 13.Never have I ever gone viral, even a little bit
  14. 14.Never have I ever been to a wedding where I didn’t know the couple
  15. 15.Never have I ever had a celebrity crush I’m properly embarrassed about
  16. 16.Never have I ever been told off by a complete stranger
  17. 17.Never have I ever rehearsed a phone call before making it
  18. 18.Never have I ever taken a longer route just to avoid talking to someone
  19. 19.Never have I ever skipped school or work to do something better
  20. 20.Never have I ever travelled somewhere with no plan at all

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Common questions

How long should an icebreaker session last?

Ten minutes, or until people start talking over the game instead of through it. That is the signal it has worked. Continuing past that point turns a warm-up into an activity nobody asked for.

Are these suitable for work?

The icebreaker set is, at the lowest intensity — nothing in it touches relationships, family, money or beliefs. Do read a few before using them with colleagues; other categories in the app are written for friends rather than teams.

What if the group is very quiet?

Answer first yourself, and answer a bit more fully than the question requires. Quiet groups are usually waiting to see how much of an answer is expected, and one example settles it.

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