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Date night questions

Most date night lists are nostalgia — how did we meet, what was our first film. Pleasant, and they point backwards. These mostly point forwards, because the useful thing on a date night is deciding what to do next.

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At home or out

None of these need a restaurant. Several are better on a sofa, and a few are specifically about making an ordinary evening at home feel deliberate, which is the harder problem for most couples.

If you are out, the game survives a noisy table: the cards are short and one phone between you is enough. If you are at home, it fills the part of the evening where the plan has run out and neither of you wants to suggest television.

Planning as a game

Some of the cards ask you to actually decide something — pick the next date and describe it in three sentences, set a reminder for something you will do together this month, name a date on the calendar you are both free.

This sounds like admin and is not. The reason couples stop doing things together is rarely lack of interest; it is that nobody makes the specific suggestion. A card that forces a specific suggestion does more than an hour of agreeing that you should go out more.

Keeping it light

Not every card is a plan. Plenty are just enjoyable — what you have cooked that could be eaten weekly, the most fun you have had somewhere that looked boring on paper, the worst date idea either of you can invent.

Mix the categories if you want the evening to move. Date night plus funny keeps the pace up; date night plus deep slows it down considerably, which is fine if that was the intention.

13 truth questions

  1. 1.What do I always order that you secretly steal from my plate?
  2. 2.If tonight had a theme song, what would it be?
  3. 3.What’s the most “us” thing we’ve ever done on a night out?
  4. 4.Which of our dates would you give one star, and what would the review say?
  5. 5.Which meal of ours would you order again exactly as it was?
  6. 6.What’s a date we’ve already had that you’d repeat every year?
  7. 7.What was our worst date, and why was it secretly one of the best?
  8. 8.What’s the best thing we’ve done together that cost nothing at all?
  9. 9.What small thing turns an ordinary evening at home into a proper date?
  10. 10.Which of our routines would you protect if everything else got busy?
  11. 11.What’s something we used to do together that quietly stopped?
  12. 12.What date idea have you been too embarrassed to suggest?
  13. 13.What’s the most spontaneous thing you’d say yes to tonight?

15 dares

  1. 14.Plan our next date using only three emojis. I have to guess it.
  2. 15.Rate our last five dates out of ten, in order, as fast as you can.
  3. 16.Pitch a night in on the sofa as if it were a five-star restaurant.
  4. 17.Make a toast to me with whatever you’re holding. Thirty seconds, full ceremony.
  5. 18.Recreate the face I make when the food I ordered arrives.
  6. 19.Choose the song for our next drive and play the first ten seconds.
  7. 20.Give a thirty-second pitch for the worst date idea you can invent.
  8. 21.Choose one of our dates to redo, and change exactly one thing about it.
  9. 22.Pick a dish we’ve never cooked and describe exactly how we’d ruin it together.
  10. 23.Give me three options for our next date. I pick one — no take-backs.
  11. 24.Plan the rest of tonight in sixty seconds. I have to say yes to one thing.
  12. 25.Tell me what you’d order for me next time we eat out — and why.
  13. 26.Plan a surprise for me out loud, badly on purpose, in thirty seconds.
  14. 27.Choose what we do next Friday. I get no say and no veto.
  15. 28.Book something for us right now, however small, and show me the confirmation.

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Common questions

Is this better at home or in a restaurant?

Both work, and the set is written for either. At home it fills the gap when the plan has run out; out, it survives a loud table because the cards are short and you only need one phone.

How is this different from ordinary couples questions?

It leans towards doing rather than remembering. Several cards end with an actual decision — a date picked, a reminder set — because the thing that stops couples doing more together is usually that nobody makes a specific suggestion.

Can we play if we have been together a long time?

That is largely who it is for. Early on there is no shortage of things to plan; ten years in, the planning is what quietly stops, and a card that asks for a specific proposal is more useful than it sounds.

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